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For instance, Atkins suggests asking your child why they think someone acted the way they did, and whether they made a good or healthy choice. It's your job, as their parent, to figure out if your child is ready to handle the level of dating they have in mind.
Pay attention to how they respond when you start a conversation about dating.
The chemistry is good, the conversation is cracking and they are showering you with more affection than Jay-Z did Beyoncé post-. Typical of those with narcissistic tendencies as well as those who are 'in love with love', love bombing is a largely unconscious behaviour.
They initiate talk of trips, buy you gifts, compliment you, call you just to say hello, and it goes on like this for a few weeks or months. In some scenarios, it happens because the instigator becomes frightened by the extent of their feelings, and in others, it can come from the more sinister notion of having 'got' the object of their affections.
This is what the kids call a 'slow fade.' Skipping over the mess of breaking up with someone, 'slow fading' is the drawn-out version of ghosting.Some places put a firm line at 18, and anyone crossing that line is guilty of statutory rape, which is to say the younger person is incapable of consent so any sexual contact is automatically rape. It’s doubtful a 17 year old fits that category no matter how much older the older person is. Maybe if it turns out that for the rest of your life you only date 17 year olds, so it IS about their age… Most jurisdictions, though, do not place such a line, or place it younger, or have “romeo and juliet laws” that allow couples who are close in age despite crossing a theoretical age line. And he or she needs your guidance and support right now." You don’t want them learning the rules of dating from peers or the media, without your input.The more you talk to your kids about what it means to be in a healthy relationship, the more likely they are to experience that, whenever they start dating.