We can savor our first kisses and the intimacy of holding hands." Obviously, when you feel ready for sex with your partner, go for it.
But if you're feeling like taking things a bit slower, middle school you is there by your side cheering you on.
In middle school, it's a pretty big deal spending hours at a time sitting in your room, talking to your crush on the phone.
That may sound incredibly overwhelming now, but it's actually a really sweet way to build a relationship with someone."I encourage the people I coach to invite potential dates to do a fun casual phone date prior to the face to face date," dating and relationship expert and founder of Love Quest Coaching, Lisa Concepcion, tells Bustle.
You never know, they just may flirt back." Don't push it if they aren't reciprocating, but getting out of your comfort zone can be good for you.
In middle school, you had the disadvantage of not being in control of your own schedule.
Communication counts when it comes to building deeper connection and trust." So, as long as your potential suitor is down, pick up the phone.
See what you learn about them during a low-stakes chat.
Before jumping into anything "serious," in middle school you probably knew a lot about this other person. "As adults we become more independent and can date several people before getting serious with someone," Concepcion says. They came over to our homes and we lived with our parents." While you probably won't do this as an adult, the idea of vetting the person and understanding where they fit into your life is a good one to apply to adult dating.Just being alone with a crush in middle school had the potential to become a lifelong memory."Remember a time before cars where you had to either ride your bike or walk everywhere and your middle school crush walked you home? "The conversations and experiences that happen on a simple walk add to the bank of quality time.Kids have so much else going on." Be grateful you no longer need a chaperone or P. credit, but remember to keep an active social life outside your relationship as much as possible.While having sex is a major benefit of being an adult, it can also be refreshing to remember a time when relationships were free from any sorts of expectations.